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Author: Frieda Mukufa


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    Condoms in my purse

    Condoms in my purse

    2021-03-26  Frieda Mukufa
    On every other ‘normal day’, what I would have in my purse or handbag besides my cellphone is; vaseline, eyeliner (even when I hardly wear it), a pen, lotion, pad and a condom. Yes, a condom.
    Rape culture

    Rape culture

    2021-04-16  Frieda Mukufa
    When there is a rape case in a newspaper, how often do you hear the phrases ‘she was probably asking for it’; ‘she knew that if he bought her drinks, she is supposed to sleep with him’; ‘she was wearing a short skirt, that is definitely asking for it,’ to mention but a few. Rape apologists often utter these phrases and what they do is called perpetuating rape culture. 
    Being a feminist in Namibia

    Being a feminist in Namibia

    2021-04-23  Frieda Mukufa
    As much as being hated by men who worship patriarchy hurts, and we always want to quit, we do it because of the next woman in line to run her feet on this Namibian soil. 
    Slut night

    Slut night

    2021-04-30  Frieda Mukufa
    The problem with men is that they just want to have conversations that would benefit them. Conversations that they would have to laugh about, because it grows their circle with benefits.
    Hate speech

    Hate speech

    2021-05-07  Frieda Mukufa
    A day after my Slut Night  article, I got an email from a man asking me why I enjoy bashing men and labelling them as sociopaths.
    Predator syndrome

    Predator syndrome

    2021-05-21  Frieda Mukufa
    ‘Die kind sy’s graad 8 maar die koekie is klaar met skool.’ I recently came across this post on my WhatsApp, where one of the guys in my contacts posted it with laughing emojis.
    Homosexuality stance

    Homosexuality stance

    2021-05-28  Frieda Mukufa
    So, to legalise homosexuality or not? Some of you might ask how this pertains to women-related issues, given that is my focus for this column. Point is, when most people talk about homosexuality, they only have men in mind because of the ‘sodomy law’. 
    Relax, he won’t pick you

    Relax, he won’t pick you

    2021-06-04  Frieda Mukufa
    There’s nothing that makes me cringe the way ‘pick-me’ does. If you do not know what a pick-me is, I will tell you. 
    Fix her crown queen

    Fix her crown queen

    2021-06-11  Frieda Mukufa
    Last week I wrote about the pick-me culture. This week, we can sommer call it an extension of the pick-meism village. For aeons on end, women have been dubbed and labelled “difficult to get along with each other”. Sometimes, more often, I am sure that every other woman has had an encounter where another woman has been mean towards you for no reason. 
    Oh bloody hell

    Oh bloody hell

    2021-06-18  Frieda Mukufa
    Apart from conversations on menstruation being dirty, there needs to be a discussion on period poverty in Namibia. May 28th was World Menstruation Day and not much was done in Namibia.
    Sexism

    Sexism

    2021-06-25  Frieda Mukufa
    Have you ever walked into a room full of people and greeted them with ‘hey guys’? It is assumed using the term ‘guys’ means no harm, but there is. Referring to people as ‘guys’ while there are women is considered sexist. While some women may be comfortable being addressed with what has been accepted as a gender-neutral term, it might not be acceptable to everyone. 
    Toxic feminism

    Toxic feminism

    2021-07-02  Frieda Mukufa
    With all that has been happening – from protests to seminars on how to end patriarchy and do away with it, there is a term that also needs to be explored: Toxic Feminism or Femininity. The term is a spectre that sits aside invocations of mainstream discussions of ‘toxic masculinity’. 
    The art of gaslighting 

    The art of gaslighting 

    2021-07-09  Frieda Mukufa
    Many people call it the art of gaslighting. There is nothing artsy about manipulating someone into becoming insane just so you can have power over them. This week, I shed light on gaslighting and how to know you are in a situation where you are being gaslighted. 
    Stigma around menstruation

    Stigma around menstruation

    2021-07-16  Frieda Mukufa
    Recently, a reader responded to one of my articles, titled ‘Bloody Hell’. In this article, I wrote about the stigma of menstrual cycles and how not much has been done about it. Thus, this article highlights the taboos associated with periods that lead to the stigmatisation of women who are menstruating. 
    Stigma around menstruation

    Stigma around menstruation

    2021-07-16  Frieda Mukufa
    Recently, a reader responded to one of my articles, titled ‘Bloody Hell’. In this article, I wrote about the stigma of menstrual cycles and how not much has been done about it. Thus, this article highlights the taboos associated with periods that lead to the stigmatisation of women who are menstruating. 
    Stigma around menstruation

    Stigma around menstruation

    2021-07-19  Frieda Mukufa
    Recently, a reader responded to one of my articles, titled ‘Bloody Hell’. In this article, I wrote about the stigma of menstrual cycles and how not much has been done about it.
    Opinion: Coping with the impostor syndrome

    Opinion: Coping with the impostor syndrome

    2021-08-06  Frieda Mukufa
    Impostor syndrome is one of the many challenges professionals confront and wrestle with daily, but don’t openly talk about. Often, people who suffer from imposter syndrome battle an internal experience of believing they are not as competent as others perceive them to be.
    If he wanted to, he would

    If he wanted to, he would

    2021-08-13  Frieda Mukufa
    Yes, today, I am choosing violence. Although you often hear this when it comes to women who complain about the men in their lives doing the bare minimum, it can as well be applied to all dating situations. So, if they wanted to, they would. 
    Feminism and sexuality

    Feminism and sexuality

    2021-08-20  Frieda Mukufa
    In its attempt to overcome male dominance in society, the feminist movement claimed the importance of the pleasures of sex for women, but also explored the dangers of sex. Many second-wave feminists celebrated discovering the pleasures and liberation of female sexuality.
    Gender Pronouns

    Gender Pronouns

    2021-08-27  Frieda Mukufa
    Often times, people make the mistake of using the wrong pronoun when addressing someone - but sometimes, people do it deliberately because the argument is, that is not how they were born.