2021-03-26Frieda Mukufa On every other ‘normal day’, what I would have in my purse or handbag besides my cellphone is; vaseline, eyeliner (even when I hardly wear it), a pen, lotion, pad and a condom. Yes, a condom. View more
2021-04-16Frieda Mukufa When there is a rape case in a newspaper, how often do you hear the phrases ‘she was probably asking for it’; ‘she knew that if he bought her drinks, she is supposed to sleep with him’; ‘she was wearing a short skirt, that is definitely asking for it,’ to mention but a few. Rape apologists often utter these phrases and what they do is called perpetuating rape culture. View more
2021-04-23Frieda Mukufa As much as being hated by men who worship patriarchy hurts, and we always want to quit, we do it because of the next woman in line to run her feet on this Namibian soil. View more
2021-04-30Frieda Mukufa The problem with men is that they just want to have conversations that would benefit them. Conversations that they would have to laugh about, because it grows their circle with benefits. View more
2021-05-07Frieda Mukufa A day after my Slut Night article, I got an email from a man asking me why I enjoy bashing men and labelling them as sociopaths. View more
2021-05-21Frieda Mukufa ‘Die kind sy’s graad 8 maar die koekie is klaar met skool.’ I recently came across this post on my WhatsApp, where one of the guys in my contacts posted it with laughing emojis. View more
2021-05-28Frieda Mukufa So, to legalise homosexuality or not? Some of you might ask how this pertains to women-related issues, given that is my focus for this column. Point is, when most people talk about homosexuality, they only have men in mind because of the ‘sodomy law’. View more
2021-06-11Frieda Mukufa Last week I wrote about the pick-me culture. This week, we can sommer call it an extension of the pick-meism village. For aeons on end, women have been dubbed and labelled “difficult to get along with each other”. Sometimes, more often, I am sure that every other woman has had an encounter where another woman has been mean towards you for no reason. View more
2021-06-18Frieda Mukufa Apart from conversations on menstruation being dirty, there needs to be a discussion on period poverty in Namibia. May 28th was World Menstruation Day and not much was done in Namibia. View more
2021-06-25Frieda Mukufa Have you ever walked into a room full of people and greeted them with ‘hey guys’? It is assumed using the term ‘guys’ means no harm, but there is. Referring to people as ‘guys’ while there are women is considered sexist. While some women may be comfortable being addressed with what has been accepted as a gender-neutral term, it might not be acceptable to everyone. View more
2021-07-02Frieda Mukufa With all that has been happening – from protests to seminars on how to end patriarchy and do away with it, there is a term that also needs to be explored: Toxic Feminism or Femininity. The term is a spectre that sits aside invocations of mainstream discussions of ‘toxic masculinity’. View more
2021-07-09Frieda Mukufa Many people call it the art of gaslighting. There is nothing artsy about manipulating someone into becoming insane just so you can have power over them. This week, I shed light on gaslighting and how to know you are in a situation where you are being gaslighted. View more
2021-07-16Frieda Mukufa Recently, a reader responded to one of my articles, titled ‘Bloody Hell’. In this article, I wrote about the stigma of menstrual cycles and how not much has been done about it. Thus, this article highlights the taboos associated with periods that lead to the stigmatisation of women who are menstruating. View more
2021-07-16Frieda Mukufa Recently, a reader responded to one of my articles, titled ‘Bloody Hell’. In this article, I wrote about the stigma of menstrual cycles and how not much has been done about it. Thus, this article highlights the taboos associated with periods that lead to the stigmatisation of women who are menstruating. View more
2021-07-19Frieda Mukufa Recently, a reader responded to one of my articles, titled ‘Bloody Hell’. In this article, I wrote about the stigma of menstrual cycles and how not much has been done about it. View more
2021-08-06Frieda Mukufa Impostor syndrome is one of the many challenges professionals confront and wrestle with daily, but don’t openly talk about. Often, people who suffer from imposter syndrome battle an internal experience of believing they are not as competent as others perceive them to be. View more
2021-08-13Frieda Mukufa Yes, today, I am choosing violence. Although you often hear this when it comes to women who complain about the men in their lives doing the bare minimum, it can as well be applied to all dating situations. So, if they wanted to, they would. View more
2021-08-20Frieda Mukufa In its attempt to overcome male dominance in society, the feminist movement claimed the importance of the pleasures of sex for women, but also explored the dangers of sex. Many second-wave feminists celebrated discovering the pleasures and liberation of female sexuality. View more
2021-08-27Frieda Mukufa Often times, people make the mistake of using the wrong pronoun when addressing someone - but sometimes, people do it deliberately because the argument is, that is not how they were born. View more
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